Let’s be real: Being a mom is tough. Sure, it’s the most rewarding job you’ll ever have in your life, but it’s also one of the hardest, and the most thankless. No one pats you on the back for defusing a tantrum, and your kids certainly aren’t thanking you for the wholesome, organic lunch you neatly bento-boxed them. In fact, they’re probably trading their carrot sticks for a pack of Oreos as you read this. Sometimes, it takes a little extra inspiration to make it through the rough days. Here are some of the best inspirational quotes for moms.
10.) “Done is better than perfect.” ~ Sheryl Sandberg
There is never enough time in a day, especially as a mom. The number of unfinished items on your to-do list at the end of the day is enough to keep you up at night. If you’re a perfectionist, it’s even worse. Sometimes, it’s important to remind yourself that if something doesn’t matter that much, it’s better to get it done quickly and be able to check it off your to-do list than to worry about getting it done perfectly, whether that means letting your kid make their own bed—and not re-making it for them afterwards—or whether it means packing a lunch that doesn’t take you forty-five minutes, even if that means it’s not Pinterest-worthy afterward.
9.) “Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.” ~ Lady Bird Johnson
Reread the Laura Ingalls Wilder books or the Anne of Green Gables books, and you’ll remember that there was a time when adults had real expectations of their children. Even more importantly, most of the time, children lived up to those expectations. So while you don’t want to put too much pressure on your kids or make them stressed out, it is okay to enlist their help in getting stuff done around the house—or just taking care of some of their own basic needs. You’ll feel less stressed, and they’ll get a boost of self-esteem in the process.
8.) “The way we talk to children becomes their inner voice.” ~ Peggy O’Mara
How many times have you said something, only to realize a split second later that you’d heard that same sentence half a dozen times from your own mother? If we want to raise confident, capable children who believe in themselves, then we have to first communicate that we believe in them. It can be hard, especially when they’re driving you right up a wall, but taking a moment to remember the impact your words can have can keep you from saying something you’ll regret later.
7.) “The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving ways.” ~ Russel Barkley
There are days when your angel child will seem to cross over to the dark side. When your kid is screaming “I hate you!” it can be hard to reply gently and lovingly. But the truth is, when your kid is that kind of angry and upset, they are really reaching out asking for your love. Remembering that can help you respond in ways that are productive rather than destructive.
6.) “Remember: You are not managing an inconvenience. You are raising a human being.” ~ Kittie Frantz
The way we talk about our children matters. In an episode of The Sister Show on kid-shaming, Ashleigh and Angie discuss parents’ tendencies to talk about their children as if they’re a hassle—the tendency to shoo them out of the room so that adults can talk or to say things like, “I need a break,” even while in their presence. But it’s important to consider what kind of message that sends your children. It’s also important to remember what kind of message that sends you. If you’re constantly thinking of your children as an inconvenience, it’s hard to enjoy being with them. Reminding yourself that you’re raising a human, not managing an inconvenience, can help you shift your perspective and rediscover the joy of parenting.
5.) “Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.” ~ Bill Ayers
All parents want the very best for their children. But sometimes, a parent’s idea of the best life for their child is different from their child’s idea. If you find yourself often butting heads with your child, it may be time to evaluate whether you have different ideologies, values, or dreams for your child’s future. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is support your child’s dreams and respect their values instead of trying to turn them into something they’re not. And while most of us know that, it can be hard when their dreams are something so far removed from what we imagined for them. Sometimes, a reminder like this can help.
4.) “Where parents do too much for their children, the children will not do much for themselves.” ~ Elbert Hubbard
Sometimes, it’s easier to just do things for our children—whether that’s putting their Lego tower together for them, finishing gluing their research onto a poster board for their school project, or filling out their college applications. Unfortunately, while this seems helpful in the moment, doing tasks for children that they are capable of doing for themselves makes them complacent and codependent. At times, the best parenting move is to step aside and let them succeed or fail on their merit.
3.) “Children will listen to you after they feel listened to.” ~ Jane Nelsen
Can you imagine if you had a friend who constantly thought that they knew what was right for you? Would you want to hang out with them—or listen to them? As parents, we have years of experience backing up why we want our children to do things in a certain way, but that doesn’t invalidate their feelings. Taking time to slow down and listen to them is important, not just because it tells them that they matter, but because if we don’t, we’re not modeling the listening skills we want them to display.
2.) “Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.” ~ Phyllis Diller
Here’s the thing: Sometimes, it’s necessary to shovel your driveway while it’s still snowing. If a big storm blows in, you know life will be harder if you don’t shovel midway through the process. But even when you do, you don’t blame the storm for continuing to blow through: You anticipate it. It’s the same way with kids. Yes, it’s important to clean your house, if only so that when they’re eighteen and out of the house there’s still a house left, but if you expect it to stay clean while you’ve got kids at home, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Instead, adjust your expectations to keeping the workload manageable, not to keeping the house clean, and you’ll be less stressed.
1.) “Your kids aren’t giving you a hard time; your kids are having a hard time.” ~ Unknown
This mindset shift may be the best one to come to the parenting world. When you realize that your kid’s misbehavior isn’t personal or directed at you, but rather a reflection of big emotions that they don’t know how to handle appropriately, it’s significantly easier to respond in a calm and effective manner.
All moms have a vision of who they want to be as a parent. But when you have kids, those dreams are tested—constantly. As a mom, you know what your struggles are. Finding the right inspirational quote can help you remind yourself to work through those struggles to be the kind of mom you want to be. You might even have the quote engraved on a personalized watch so that it’s with you every day to remind you of your goals.